(Making me wait is like game, set, and match...you lose.)
Ladies, ladies, ladies. Lets talk about this practice of making him wait when he picks you up. At the beginning of the semester, you and your roommates all went to the outlet malls to find your 'date' outfits. You already know what you're going to wear. The hot topic in the apartment lately has been whether your hair should be straight or curly or in a ponytail or left down. (For the record, leave your hair down, only do it curly if its naturally curly. Crunchy hair product is not attractive) You probably skipped out of class or work early to make sure you had time to prepare for the night's festivities. Your roommates have spent the afternoon helping you with your make up, hair and choosing the perfect lip gloss. You reward your favorite roomie with the power of opening the door when Great Guy comes to pick you up.
The scene:
Great Guy: "Hey, is Great Girl here?"
Fave Roomie: "Yeah, she's getting ready. It'll be a few more minutes."(Great Guy looks at his watch. Movie starts in 15 minutes. Good thing he Fandango-ed.)
Fave Roomie: "You can sit if you want."(Giggling from the bedrooms/bathrooms. Muffled talking, asking about what Great Guy is wearing. If the pink you're wearing is okay with the maroon he is. Why does it matter if you match anyway?)
10 minutes later...
Fave Roomie: "She's almost ready, I swear."
Great Guy: "Oh, okay, no big deal."
But it is a big deal. There's no way you're going to make it to the movie on time. The message you've sent to Great Guy is not a positive one. You've illustrated that you're high maintainance and that you lack the common courtesy of doing what you say when you say you will do it.It is perfectly acceptable to answer the door yourself. Greet the Great Guy and say "Let me grab my purse. I'll be just a moment." Go to your bedroom, tell your roommates that he looks great and do a final (and quick) spin in front of the mirror. And proceed out the door, on time. A guy doesn't mind being accomodating, but he does mind it when you abuse him.If you are constantly late for dates, you make it impossible for Great Guy to plan anything. Girls are constantly complaining about guys who ask them out and then don't have anything planned. How can a guy plan a date if he doesn't have a time frame? Do yourselves (and all of the Great Guys out there) a favor and spare the 10th layer of lipgloss and the last few squirts of hairspray while your date sits on the couch waiting. No one needs that much on their lips or in their hair anyway. Punctuality makes you prettier. And what girl doesn't want that extra help? Totally love you all and good luck finding your EC.
Uh, DUH - you should have said something, dummy! She would not have made you late (if she's worth it) is she knew there was a movie planned and starting that soon. When they say "she's almost ready" you say "oh good, cuz the movie starts in 15 minutes" or "great - the reservations are in 15 minutes and we gotta hurry."
ReplyDeleteI have had this problem far too many times with girls. I understand that girls need time to get ready and I appreciate when they take the time to look good, but be on time. No one likes waiting, especially if you have reservations.
ReplyDeleteOne time I set up the date so we could watch the sun set right after dinner, the plan was flawless... except one unexpected variable, she was 30 minutes late. Sorry girls the sun doesn't wait.
Since then I have learned to spot the girls that are gonna keep you waiting, so I just flat out lie to her and tell her to be ready at 6:45, then show up at 7 (or 7:15 depending on the girl).
Problem solved.
plus it's really awkward sitting on some random girl's couch while you wait.
ReplyDeletegoes both ways... may not be because you're adding an extra layer of lip gloss... but seriously, if your going to make me wait FOREVER tell me and I'll make other plans. Its not a big deal. It is annoying not having a time frame.
ReplyDeleteok another dude here to express my opinion... who here spots our wonderful hosts big mistake? for those of you that haven't i'll let you in on it. most reservations and movies and plays... heck any date will work fine if you show up on time... so what do you do? be accomadating by telling her that you'll pick her up at a time that will get you to the movie earlier! what a shocking idea! think about a date is a chance to get to know the person right? well this is one reason i don't like going to movies as a date. you go to the movie you watch it in silence and then most guys will drive her home with the radio on so that they are in silence. well that was fun did you learn anything new? no but she learned that you don't want to talk to her and would rather listen to music... guess what you've just become to her? a Jerk! suggestion for you guys out there. show up earlier than you need to but still on time according to what you told her. then while you're waiting for her to get ready talk to the roommates that are in the room. get to know them so as to set yourself up for another potential date later on in the month. when she comes down and apologizes for taking so long just smile and let here know that its alright knowing that you're going to still be on time at the very least. and hey with any luck you'll still be a little early getting there and you can talk to her. ladies don't shut down a conversation if you're with a shy guy. if he started the conversation then he already did a big move in leaving his bubble.and guys... the girl always always has control over the music. you can suffer through the music she likes because you want the date to go smoothly.there see all problems solved with a bit of careful planning. shocking isn't it?
ReplyDeleteDeuce. this isn't your blog. stop it with the novel-length comments already!
ReplyDeleteI'm delighted that author thinks his dates feel blessed to go out with him. Perhaps if she is late she's just not that into you. Try harder next time.
ReplyDeleteThis blog should be call "Why Mormon Guys Stay Single".
Above Anon...
ReplyDeleteEven so, if she agreed to the date she agreed to the terms set out by the guy, namely, said date is happening at such and such time, be ready. Her interest level is a moot point once she agrees to the date. Don't validate rudeness.
I tend to be ready on time/within 5 minutes to on time, but I have had guys say "I'll pick you up at 7" then show up at 6:45. I plan very hard to be ready at 7, but if you show up 15 minutes early, plan to wait. And if you show up 15 minutes late without a decent excuse, I probably won't want to go out with you again...
ReplyDeleteso although it stinks for guys who have to wait for girls who aren't ready on time, give her a chance! Don't assume all girls are going to be late.
Remember this: If a girl is late on the first date, she'll be late on the hundredth date.
ReplyDeleteGood thing there are always 20 minutes of previews to start---so really aren't going to be late.
ReplyDeleteThat's cute that boys are naive enough to think that we really spend the whole day (and days before) preparing ourselves for them. We (girls with lives and brains) have better things to do. Sure, I'll rush home faster than usual to make sure I look nice, but c'mon.... hours of preparation? If this is a pattern that you boys keep running into, I suggest you stop dating eighteen-year-olds. :)
ReplyDeleteI know the author. He sucks!!
ReplyDeleteHmm...consider CSL is a female, I doubt you actually know him.
ReplyDeleteDon't be a victim of circumstance, excuse extreme conditions, and make smart choices.
ReplyDeleteI agree. You got the title of this blog ALL wrong boys/girl?... Why Mormon Guys Stay Single. Or maybe Why Mormon Guys Like You Will ALWAYS Stay Single.
ReplyDeleteHahaha okay this made me laugh. Dude, if you're going out with girls that waste that much time and effort on what they look like, let me in on a little secret: they won't be pretty in the morning. Haha seriously though, seriously. I've never heard of a chick "reward" a favorite roommate with the "honor" of opening the door, and I haven't ever heard of a chick trying to "match" what her date is wearing either.
ReplyDeleteReally, dude. Maybe you don't know women as well as you think.
So I usually was on time for dates but one time I was ready 15 minutes after my date arrived. The next time the same date was 15 minutes late and I was ready on time. This really bugged me but I realize I can't be a hypocrite and I learned my lesson. I'm married that date and I'm grateful for his patience.
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