Tuesday, February 3, 2009
The Grooming Station #1 Ignoring is not Adoring
Guys. It's your turn. As much as I know some of you guys enjoy the constant beratement of the phenomenon so adequately named The Single Mormon Girl, they haven't screwed up alone. A large reason why these girls stay single is because we pronounce many qualities not deserving of their time and attention. Hopefully through these posts, we can understand what they really want and finally follow through in becoming a desirable Single Mormon Boy.
Notice the Report Card above? Well, this particular guy is doing well in many important and trivial things. However, guy is performing poorly in his relationship. Having a girlfriend is the easy part, but keeping her a central figure in your life is a whole new barrel of monkeys. Most of the other activities are already innate activities that we have done day in & day out for quite some time. Girls are different, we have to acknowledge that they are a part of our lives, because just bringing them along for the ride just won't cut it. The goal is having someone we can relate to at all times and not just during moments of fun and intimacy. When we eventually get married, we're stuck with them, so we might as well involve them in aspects of our lives now. Who cares if she's not interested, because I'm sure there are a slew of activities she does that doesn't interest you. The goal is compromise and sometimes having her get involved in your interests or you getting involved in her activities help form an appreciation of differences. Having buddies are great, but we sometimes get caught up in how cool it is to have friends that the girlfriend is the afterthought. Having guy time doesn't justify ignoring the girlfriend. Include the girlfriend in your hang outs. You like her don't you? Show her. You don't have to bring her to every little thing, but if you are working late or have unexpected plans give her a quick heads up call without feeling like it's a chore. Listen up when she's talking. Usually she's dropping subtle hints that are crucial for birthdays, anniversaries, and other delightful surprises. Master the art of making her feel special and important now and you won't have to worry later. You have been groomed!