Monday, February 9, 2009
Mistake #23 The Chameleon Effect by CSL
CSL, here, once again. And once again, this is not just something that girls do, but guys do it to.
My husband once asked out a girl that he was impressed by. She seemed wholesome enough. She attended all of her church meetings, never cursed and was quite pleasant to be around. He picked her up, on time, and he experienced the Chameleon Effect.
No longer did this girl present herself as wholesome. She walked out of her bedroom in a tank top that with a neckline that would be referred to as 'plunging' by even the most liberal critic. Her outfit, from head to toe, was designed to show off her assets, to put it kindly. The date didn't last for long.
This example isn't the only way that the Chameleon Effect presents itself. It is the diagnosis of every lie that we may tell about ourselves to attract the opposite sex.
Wipe the shocked look off your face. Yes, I just called all of you liars.
From the girl who pretends that she loves watching pro wrestling in order to snag some time with her crush, to the guy who suffers through the latest Matthew McConaghey/Kate Hudson romantic comedy in order to get some cuddle action, we all have done it at some point in our lives. (How was that for a run-on sentence, all you English majors out there?)
Now, I suppose you're all expecting me to get all Relief Society-ish and start lecturing you on your Divine Nature and how you shouldn't try to be someone you're not, because we are all children of our Heavenly Father. Save it for church.
Don't lure a guy (or girl) to your apartment, pretending to need his/her help with the lastest roommate problem and then try to force a make out session with him/her. (Yeah, I had a roommate do this once. She even licked his face. Goo.)
If your crush isn't trying to spend time with you outside of your time together watching pro wrestling, give it up. That TV time isn't time with you. Its time to watch pro wrestling and hopefully get a free dinner out of it.
Don't present yourself as a Molly if most of your wardrobe looks like something out of a Victoria's Secret Magazine. Don't pretend to be a Peter if your dating success is determined by how many hickies you collected.
And the converse is true. If you are a Molly, be a Molly. If you're a Peter, be a Peter.
*Disclaimer: Yeah, these are the extremes. I know. Not everyone who isn't a Molly is automatically a 'mistress of the night.' But the Chameleon Effect happens on many different levels. Take a look at your dating life and try to find your Chameleon tendencies before you attack me.*